Wednesday, July 11, 2012
Anyone who's ever suffered at the sharp claws of a catty kitty instinctively knows all the reasons to shy away from cat-eye glasses. Just the connotation is enough to conjure memories of mean girl incidents where you're told about a party/baby shower/brunch but then never actually invited. If you've had traumatic run-ins with catty girls you're probably skiddish about purchasing anything connected with the word cat...but there are some kitten steps that can help.
RECOVERY STEP #1: UNDERSTANDING CATTY KITTIES
Manhattan life coach Julie Melillo, has some answers about catty women. She says, "Quite simply, it makes them feel better -- it's the same dynamic as bullying. Seeing someone in pain makes them feel powerful. It's similar to a 4th grader stealing someone's lunch money, just to see if he can make another kid cry. It makes this kid, or this 'mean girl' feel important." Karol Ward, a licensed psychotherapist says "catty" women feel the need to put others down because "they have thwarted ambition and need to manipulate others to achieve what they want, have feelings of self-hatred or desire for attention that has been unfulfilled."
RECOVERY STEP #2: RX FOR CAT SCRATCHES
Understanding why mean girls are mean is all well and good, but how do you keep from getting scratched? The advice of Jane Kaiser, a life advice coach for teenage girls is to "be willing to see them for what they are--scared. True friendliness and a gentle demeanor will douse the flames of jealousy and ignorance. Ignore your natural instincts to sink to their level and fuel them on--you're better than that!" Meow!
RECOVERY STEP #3: CAT-THARTIC
My advice: embrace cattiness--celebrate it's beauty and glamour--whoa, I don't mean catty girls, I mean cat eye glasses! Channel your inner Anna Dello Russo and have fun! And so begins the search for the perfect pair. There are hundreds on the market, but I'm partial to Tom Ford, Linda Farrow and The Row. Who makes your favorite pair?
Top left clockwise: The Row Cat Eye glasses $445; Dior Cat Eye glasses $295; Tom Ford Madison glasses $425; Linda Farrow for The Row $363; Tom Ford Eyewear $360; Tom Ford Katrine glasses.
WHY CATS HAVE 9 LIVES
For anyone looking to embrace their inner kitty at a discount, I'm selling my barely worn Tom Ford sunnies. I adore them but they don't suit me as well as the Tom Ford Madison cat eye glasses which are better suited to the shape of my face. Luckily I have at least 9 chances to get it right. If you're interested, click over to my store, Shop.MaryJoMatsumoto.com.
Kitty cats please tell me about your favorite pair. Will you be embracing your inner catty-eye this summer?
Quotes by Julie Melillo, Karol Ward and Jane Kaiser courtesy How To Conquer Catty Women by Jennifer Lubell.