catty behavior
Wednesday, July 11, 2012
CLEARLY CATTY
CAT SHY
Anyone who's ever suffered at the sharp claws of a catty kitty instinctively knows all the reasons to shy away from cat-eye glasses. Just the connotation is enough to conjure memories of mean girl incidents where you're told about a party/baby shower/brunch but then never actually invited. If you've had traumatic run-ins with catty girls you're probably skiddish about purchasing anything connected with the word cat...but there are some kitten steps that can help.
RECOVERY STEP #1: UNDERSTANDING CATTY KITTIES
Manhattan life coach Julie Melillo, has some answers about catty women. She says, "Quite simply, it makes them feel better -- it's the same dynamic as bullying. Seeing someone in pain makes them feel powerful. It's similar to a 4th grader stealing someone's lunch money, just to see if he can make another kid cry. It makes this kid, or this 'mean girl' feel important." Karol Ward, a licensed psychotherapist says "catty" women feel the need to put others down because "they have thwarted ambition and need to manipulate others to achieve what they want, have feelings of self-hatred or desire for attention that has been unfulfilled."
RECOVERY STEP #2: RX FOR CAT SCRATCHES
Understanding why mean girls are mean is all well and good, but how do you keep from getting scratched? The advice of Jane Kaiser, a life advice coach for teenage girls is to "be willing to see them for what they are--scared. True friendliness and a gentle demeanor will douse the flames of jealousy and ignorance. Ignore your natural instincts to sink to their level and fuel them on--you're better than that!" Meow!
RECOVERY STEP #3: CAT-THARTIC
My advice: embrace cattiness--celebrate it's beauty and glamour--whoa, I don't mean catty girls, I mean cat eye glasses! Channel your inner Anna Dello Russo and have fun! And so begins the search for the perfect pair. There are hundreds on the market, but I'm partial to Tom Ford, Linda Farrow and The Row. Who makes your favorite pair?
Top left clockwise: The Row Cat Eye glasses $445; Dior Cat Eye glasses $295; Tom Ford Madison glasses $425; Linda Farrow for The Row $363; Tom Ford Eyewear $360; Tom Ford Katrine glasses.
WHY CATS HAVE 9 LIVES
For anyone looking to embrace their inner kitty at a discount, I'm selling my barely worn Tom Ford sunnies. I adore them but they don't suit me as well as the Tom Ford Madison cat eye glasses which are better suited to the shape of my face. Luckily I have at least 9 chances to get it right. If you're interested, click over to my store, Shop.MaryJoMatsumoto.com.
Kitty cats please tell me about your favorite pair. Will you be embracing your inner catty-eye this summer?
Quotes by Julie Melillo, Karol Ward and Jane Kaiser courtesy How To Conquer Catty Women by Jennifer Lubell.
CAT SHY
Anyone who's ever suffered at the sharp claws of a catty kitty instinctively knows all the reasons to shy away from cat-eye glasses. Just the connotation is enough to conjure memories of mean girl incidents where you're told about a party/baby shower/brunch but then never actually invited. If you've had traumatic run-ins with catty girls you're probably skiddish about purchasing anything connected with the word cat...but there are some kitten steps that can help.
RECOVERY STEP #1: UNDERSTANDING CATTY KITTIES
Manhattan life coach Julie Melillo, has some answers about catty women. She says, "Quite simply, it makes them feel better -- it's the same dynamic as bullying. Seeing someone in pain makes them feel powerful. It's similar to a 4th grader stealing someone's lunch money, just to see if he can make another kid cry. It makes this kid, or this 'mean girl' feel important." Karol Ward, a licensed psychotherapist says "catty" women feel the need to put others down because "they have thwarted ambition and need to manipulate others to achieve what they want, have feelings of self-hatred or desire for attention that has been unfulfilled."
RECOVERY STEP #2: RX FOR CAT SCRATCHES
Understanding why mean girls are mean is all well and good, but how do you keep from getting scratched? The advice of Jane Kaiser, a life advice coach for teenage girls is to "be willing to see them for what they are--scared. True friendliness and a gentle demeanor will douse the flames of jealousy and ignorance. Ignore your natural instincts to sink to their level and fuel them on--you're better than that!" Meow!
RECOVERY STEP #3: CAT-THARTIC
My advice: embrace cattiness--celebrate it's beauty and glamour--whoa, I don't mean catty girls, I mean cat eye glasses! Channel your inner Anna Dello Russo and have fun! And so begins the search for the perfect pair. There are hundreds on the market, but I'm partial to Tom Ford, Linda Farrow and The Row. Who makes your favorite pair?
Top left clockwise: The Row Cat Eye glasses $445; Dior Cat Eye glasses $295; Tom Ford Madison glasses $425; Linda Farrow for The Row $363; Tom Ford Eyewear $360; Tom Ford Katrine glasses.
WHY CATS HAVE 9 LIVES
For anyone looking to embrace their inner kitty at a discount, I'm selling my barely worn Tom Ford sunnies. I adore them but they don't suit me as well as the Tom Ford Madison cat eye glasses which are better suited to the shape of my face. Luckily I have at least 9 chances to get it right. If you're interested, click over to my store, Shop.MaryJoMatsumoto.com.
Kitty cats please tell me about your favorite pair. Will you be embracing your inner catty-eye this summer?
Quotes by Julie Melillo, Karol Ward and Jane Kaiser courtesy How To Conquer Catty Women by Jennifer Lubell.
Labels: cat eyed sunglasses, fashion, style reflections
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Wednesday, July 11, 2012
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31 Comments:
I'd have to choose Intelligent Kitty. I'm a sucker for tortoise shell!
Happy hump day!
Xoxo
Sooo classic! I have the Tom Ford Sophia and wish they were more angular, but they are still awesome!
xoxo,
Chic 'n Cheap Living
Wonderful post! I especially liked the sub-divisions of cat eye sunnies;)Why did you want to avoid this shape? I looove cat eye glasses! what can be more lady-like yet playful & quirky?!
Xx
Alexandra
www.fashion-bridge.blogspot.com
Such a fab post! My favourite ones would definitely be the "intelligent" and the "French" and I would definitely struggle if I had to choose just one. :)
x
Love those..I've been after some for ages!! And I know quite well of catty girls at school, don't know why girls tear each other up so much, especially when the world does that enough. Just love these :))) xx
What fun and funny post.
I love the shape but i am afraid i just don't think it suits my face.
Good lucking hunting for your perfect pair!
Red xx
I can't tell you how many cat eye glasses I own. I love them especially with red lips. They look good on almost every face shape.
Meow, darling!
I need those "intelligent kitty" specs!
xoxox,
CC
Beautiful post, Mary Jo! My favourites would be Clearly Catty, French Kitty and My True Kitty (although I don't know if they would suit me). :)
Ada
PS: Still not on summer holiday, but I'll be taking a few days off next week and then hopefully a proper vacation in August. I can not wait to hear more about your fall line. :)
this style is purr-fect! there are some that take it too far, but i love the one's you selected.
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amazing post and blog!
xoxo navy & orange
Great post! I love it :)
Mary Jo, you made me smile with this post! I'm not sure if cat eye shape would usuit me, but the intelligent kitty and French kitty models are so nice...
this is brilliant....
with the exception of lady jane, i eschew kitty cats for the essence of this post...they all can be such b's mary jo....
as for my favorite sunglasses....definitely linda farrow's tortoise numbers for the row.
love them!
love you!
love this post!
i love the clearly catty glasses
xo
MOSAMUSE
www.MOSAMUSE.com
I have some cat eye sunnies from Betsey Johnson! Great way to make any look interesting.
Great post! I think the intelligent kitty and clear kitty are my favs.
xx
Quiet Luxury
What a fun post! Love the sunglasses, don't like the cattiness so much.
This is such a humorous post. Thanks for the giggles. I don't own a pair of cat eye sunglasses, but I'm working on fixing that. I love French Kitty.
xx Jenee C.
http://camomeetscouture.blogspot.com
Loved reading this! The cat eyed sunnies are too cute, but whenever I put them on me, they look somewhat strange. For that reason, I think I'd go for the "intelligent" ones! Less catty, I think.
:)
Allison
A's Fashion Files
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It's a very nice and interesting post. I really love it.
It's a nice style and i love your selection.
xoxo
Im loving the cat style sunglasses trend,they look so chic,fierce and sophisticated.
Im loving the clear,Prada ones,absolutely gorgeous.
I also love tortoise shell affect glasses,such a classic so they have to be my fav.
Thank you for your lovely comment and I hope your having a wonderful day x
This is such a cute post. I've never looked good in this shape... Not 50's enough to wear them... Ha!
Your "True Kitty" pick is my favorite! I actually haven't owned true cat eye glasses, I am always scared that they will look too forced on me! But hey, the right pair could change that!
As a cat and fashion lover, I am literally swooning over this post, Mary Jo! :)
Nice colors and lovely style!
this is a fun post and i love the glasses!
I love the 50's era and also cat eye style shades too, I recently invested in a pair of tortoiseshell cat eye frames, a la Taylor Tomasi Hill!
x.o.x.o
p.s love all tings kitty, grew up with Hello Kitty in my life. Love the Paul and Joe lippy - though I think i'd never use it-too cute!
This is just so dang clever. Thank you Mary Jo, for enlivening my day.
What an amazing and ispiring collection of images!!! Well done!!!
Sending you kisses and hugs.
Best Regards
Miss Margaret Cruzemark
http://margaretcruzemark.blogspot.com/
Loving cat's eyes glasses, sadly they don't suit but otherwise Tom Ford is my bloke all round.
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